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  Sleaze Update...

  by White Dove in

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  email exchange just a minute ago:.

  him: "i just wanted to let you know that i never had any intention of causing any harm.

  and i apologize for anything that seemed that way.".

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  When I do finally get with a guy, I'll know it's for keeps.

  Honestly, I don't think any of us can ever know this for a certainty. There is always a risk involved in opening your heart to love another. You may view your relationship for keeps, but so do the majority of people who get married.

  I know you don't like statistics, but statistically, the divorce rate for 2nd marriages is about double of that for first marriages. It's around 35% for first marriages, and around 75% for second marriages, making an all around average of approximately 55% of all marriages ending. It think it s around 95% failure rate for 3rd and subsequent marriages which are not as common.

  Bottom line: there are no guarantees.
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  The Insanity of Arguing on the Internet!

  by cognizant dissident in

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  in an effort to get us all to lighten up and take ourselves and our beliefs a little less seriously, post your internet jokes and funnies here.. one of my personal favorites: .

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  OMG Outlaw, I just watched your cartoon long enough to see the ending! People you have to watch it for more than a few seconds, it is so funny!

  Cheezits, I agree with you about sharpening our critical thinking skills and debating skills. I've done plenty of that on this site and learned a lot and had fun doing it. As long as we know we are gettting something useful from it and its fun, no harm done.

  You all know the threads though, that dissolve into pointless name calling and insults. No viewpoints are changed. You all know the feeling of getting angry and emotional and needing to prove yourselves right, for your own ego. I think it is when we are getting our emotions triggered and are attached to changing someone else's viewpoint then it is time for us to step away from the keyboard! It shouldn't be THAT personal for us. Because it is a very impersonal medium.
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  The Insanity of Arguing on the Internet!

  by cognizant dissident in

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  2. humour

  in an effort to get us all to lighten up and take ourselves and our beliefs a little less seriously, post your internet jokes and funnies here.. one of my personal favorites: .

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  Mrs Jones: Your comic has such an element of truth in it for me. I do find myself much more likely to get in an argument on the internet when I'm feeling lonely and needing a hug. It's like negative attention is better than no attention at all.

  I never even chatted or talked to anyone on the internet for ten years after I first got it, until I knew my marriage was over (hubby wouldn't interact with me) and my son was starting to make his own life. Before that, I was too busy living my life, being a wife and a mom, socializing with my JW friends, etc.

  Here's my offering for the day. Keep em coming people.

  

  ps: OTWO, yours was hilarious, haven't seen that one before!
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  Never Wake Up

  by brotherdan in

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  just got back from an awesome time in maui.

  today we got a call from my fil.

  my mil has been in utah for the last week or so and found out that her family past was full of "demon activity".

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  I wouldn't reply to the email. Anything you write in an email can be taken to the elders and is all the proof they need to df you.

  Your wife's email shows she is not in listening mode with you right now. So stop talking. Nothing good can come of it. Focus on doing the best thing for your children. Her email, also basically says she is ready and willing to engage in a war with you for the children. This is not good for them.

  Tell your children what you believe, calmly and gently, whenever they ask you or whenever the occasion arises. You don't have to badmouth your wife, or the JW's to your kids. You can just say to them, "that's what mommy believes, but I don't believe that." Tell them most of the people in the world don't believe in Jehovah. Plant little seeds of doubts in their minds that cause them to think and question everything. Explain to them how everyone in the world believes different things and that's OK. Keep at their intellectual and emotional level. Do not drag them into the war between your wife and you.

  Children are pretty smart and if given enough information, and both sides of the story, they will be able to see what's what. They will be attracted to the parent who stays calm, reasonable, and doesn't scare them or make them feel sad. They will be attracted to the parent who makes them feel good. It may take a while to undo the previous damage, but be patient, it can be done. Many men lose this war because they give up entirely and give their kids over to their wives and their organization.
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  The Insanity of Arguing on the Internet!

  by cognizant dissident in

  1. social
  2. humour

  in an effort to get us all to lighten up and take ourselves and our beliefs a little less seriously, post your internet jokes and funnies here.. one of my personal favorites: .

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  cognizant dissident

  In an effort to get us all to lighten up and take ourselves and our beliefs a little less seriously, post your internet jokes and funnies here.

  One of my personal favorites:
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  Sleaze Update...

  by White Dove in

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  2. relationships

  email exchange just a minute ago:.

  him: "i just wanted to let you know that i never had any intention of causing any harm.

  and i apologize for anything that seemed that way.".

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  Yes, but as long as I'm happy with a good fight, then I don't have a problem, do I?

  Besides, I was being sarcastic when I said that. I don't actually like fighting, as in physical or name-calling. I don't mind a good debate on a subject of interest to me. As long as I'm winning. Like in this one with you.

  Tact is not my strong point, though. I will give you that. I think I value honesty and logic more than tact. Especially on an internet discussion board, where I don't kid myself that any of us truly know each other. In my real life relationships, I much more kind and tactful. (I think. Perhaps I'm deluding myself? )
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  Sleaze Update...

  by White Dove in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  email exchange just a minute ago:.

  him: "i just wanted to let you know that i never had any intention of causing any harm.

  and i apologize for anything that seemed that way.".

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  I wasn't intending to bicker childishly. My question to White Dove was very sincere and based upon experiences I've had with women who have been abused or in bad relationships and then tend to see all men through that filter. I used to view men through the same filter. Always looking for the potential abuser. I had to learn to undo this conditioning as it was leading me to unfairly characterize all men instead of getting to know them for who THEY were. You cannot have a close intimate relationship with someone if you start out by projecting your mistrust on them from the outset. Granted it does protect us, but it also puts up barriers to intimacy. The barriers must come down before we can get close to someone.

  White Dove herself has characterized herself in other threads as someone who always has her shields up, who doesn't trust easily, who shoots men down before they get a chance to hurt her. I'm recognizing a pattern there. A true friend does not always tell you what you want to hear. If they see a pattern that is self-defeating in some way, they point it out.

  My posts to TWITCH were also sincere discussion about the expectations that men and women unfairly place on one another. These topics have always been of particular interest to me and that's why I continue to comment on this thread.
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  Sleaze Update...

  by White Dove in

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  email exchange just a minute ago:.

  him: "i just wanted to let you know that i never had any intention of causing any harm.

  and i apologize for anything that seemed that way.".

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  cognizant dissident

  If you put stuff like this up on a public discussion forum it is presumed you want public discussion.
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  To the Household of Dog

  by AK - Jeff in

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  to the household of dog, hades, and those who go with you... may you have smoke [on the water]!.

  as you know i have, for many years now, related to you that i hear the voice of the dog shepherd, the smoked one of hades and vodka spirits, auhsehaj hajahcisim [abbreviated in the ancient texts as grim, a four consonant tetragrammaton meaning smoke, drunk, and savior].

  over such years i have received many questions and comments, and engaged in various debates regarding the validity of that name and my translation of it's transmutations throughout the ages including several redacted engagements of the original name.

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  We haven't heard from OTWO lately. If he doesn't show up here tomorrow, I'm going to be worried.

  Shelby, could you be more specific about what the father is going to do with OTWO? Because if you get that one right, you can pretty much charge admission to your own church from here on in. Hell, I may even join up!
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  Sleaze Update...

  by White Dove in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  email exchange just a minute ago:.

  him: "i just wanted to let you know that i never had any intention of causing any harm.

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  Twitch:

  An interesting post. The question it brings to mind for me is, perhaps it is wise for us to examine the "strings" we wish to attach to the opposite sex whether man or woman? If we find a person attractive and we say so, and we let them know we would like to have sex with them, why does there have to be any strings? Do we feel we have some sort of rights or claims on them? Why? Why is the beauty of the sexual attraction and sex act between a man and a woman not enough in and of itself?

  If we are the type of person who wants a commitment of exclusivity from the opposite sex before we engage in sex (for whatever reason), I'm not saying that is wrong. That is just our string we want to attach. And that is fine as long as the other person doesn't mind being attached. But why get so angry at them if they don't want the string attached to them? Why call them names like sleazy or immoral? (not saying you did, but just putting general questions out there for everyone to consider)